Life can be a mixed bag: Scary, Rewarding, Challenging, Joyful, Generous, Peaceful, and Hectic. Sometimes, all in the same day. But regardless, life is a story book - our personal story book. It has a beginning, an end, and a legacy that follows. At Green Hills, we love to tell stories of lives well lived and include all who make that possible. We invite you to tell your story in our complimentary Advanced Planning Guide. Your family and friends will know your personal wishes and who you are out to protect and share your life with. We encourage you to [...]
Choosing a permanent resting place could be quite daunting. Whether the choice comes from the family after a passing or from the individual him/herself, several aspects should be considered: Cemetery Location: Being close to where we lived and have roots contributes to our sense of heritage and legacy. Having attended burials for others gives a sense of familiarity (and companionship) at a very lonely time; and providing our loved ones an accessible location to visit may ease the grief and sense of loss. Type of Cemetery: Cemeteries can be Public, Religious, District or Municipal, National or Veterans Cemeteries, and they [...]
A couple of years ago, my sister passed away. As a long time resident of the South Bay, she had given her husband instructions to have her buried at Green Hills Memorial Park. It made sense, but it also compelled me to wonder how most people choose (or should choose) something as important as an eternal resting place. Why do most people choose one cemetery over another, or over none at all? Patty had lived in the South Bay for 40 years. She drove down Western Avenue dozens of times, sometimes even with her young children. She also attended many [...]
Emptying the Parents Home with Harmony and Guilt-free Submitted by community member Susan M., Torrance Sadly, both my husband and I lost our sets of parents in the last 5 years and had to perform the physical and emotional tasks of dismantling their homes. In part because each had its own set of circumstances, the presence of siblings, and the emotions of the moment, our two experiences were handled completely differently. Clearing out the house - a final distribution With my husband’s family, everyone was local. The parents had owned their four-bedroom home for 40 years, after owning three [...]
Preparing for a Burial Many burials happen within a few days of a passing; others may be a week, months, or even years after. But in spite of time or circumstances, emotionally preparing for that day may come with difficulties. We use the term “burial” loosely and in lieu of “final resting place” or “disposition.” But regardless, it is an act of closure. “Closure?"! To some of us, this ceremony is just the beginning of living day to day facing the loss of companionship we will not regain. Or if it is after some time has passed, it may be [...]
When in pain, we many times prefer to be left alone. Other times we may want to share our thoughts and feelings with others. And sometimes, we switch from one feeling to the other within seconds. Preparing for services following a death comes with complexities. Perhaps our ideas of what we should do are tied to traditions, religion, belief system, or practical aspects. But rarely are services about one person’s emotions. Not only may there be several family members, but even the general attendees may be painfully mourning. A Vulnerable Host / A Forgiving Public Allow yourself to be [...]
Death is 100% certain and causes huge impacts on loved ones. Having to come up with money for a burial, or conflicting opinions among family members do not need to be one of those burdens.
48 Hours After a Death May Add To Even More Grief Most families that come to Green Hills after the death of a loved one appear blindsided by the whole occurrence. It is not surprising: Since death is not something we like to think about, many of us won’t prepare for it either. If our 70+ years of experience can be of any help to you, we’d like to offer some tips that may help minimize this overwhelmness at the most vulnerable of times. The Bad news: A variety of decisions will have to be made. Who will make [...]